Licensed psychologist
I'm José Villalba Jorquera, a licensed psychologist (no. M-XXXXX), with a regulated practice bound by the code of ethics and professional secrecy.
Grief psychologist in Toledo
Grief psychologist in Toledo
Losing someone changes everything. There is no "right" way to grieve and no deadline for getting over it. If the pain of a loss is overwhelming you or has become stuck, I can support you, at your own pace, in Toledo and online.
Do you recognise this?
When grief weighs too heavily
Grief is a natural response to love and loss, not an illness. But sometimes it gets stuck and we need help to move through it. You may recognise yourself in some of this:
- Time has passed and the pain gives you no respite or lets you move on.
- You avoid places, objects or conversations that remind you of the person you lost.
- You feel guilt over what you did, said or never got to do.
- You struggle to accept what has happened, as if it weren't real.
- The sadness lives alongside anger, anxiety or an emptiness that nothing fills.
- You feel you "should" be better by now, and that makes you feel worse.
Asking for help doesn't mean wanting to forget. It means looking for a way to keep living while carrying with you the person you lost.
Types of grief
The kinds of grief I support
Grief after the death of a loved one
The loss of a partner, a father or mother, a child, a sibling or a friend. A space to put the pain into words and find your own way to say goodbye and to remember.
Complicated or stuck grief
When grief drags on, freezes or stops you getting on with your life. We work gently with whatever has become blocked so the pain can start moving again.
Other losses
We don't only grieve a death: a break-up, an illness, the loss of a life plan or of a chapter also hurt. Every one of them deserves to be accompanied.
Anticipatory grief
The grief we live when we know a loss is coming, for example when a loved one has a serious illness. I can support you through that waiting too.
What therapy is like
How I support you through grief
There are no formulas or stages you "have to" complete. My work is to offer you a safe space where the pain has room and, little by little, to find a way to move forward without leaving behind the person you lost.
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A space for the pain
A place where you can express what you feel without anyone rushing you or telling you how you "should" be. Feeling heard already brings relief.
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Processing the loss
Calmly, we work through the guilt, the anger or what was left unsaid, and shape a farewell and a memory you can hold on to.
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Reconnecting with life
Little by little you recover meaning and desire, learning to carry the person you lost with you in a way that hurts less.
What you'll gain
Learning to live with the loss
- A safe space where your pain has room and is not judged.
- Relief from guilt and from "I could have done more".
- Being able to remember the person you lost without it overwhelming you.
- Gradually recovering your sleep, appetite and energy.
- Finding your own way to say goodbye and to keep going.
- Reconnecting with life without feeling you are betraying their memory.
First orientation session
You don't have to go through it alone
Grief becomes easier to carry when you're accompanied. Book your first session, with no commitment, and we'll look together at how to hold this moment, in Toledo or in online therapy.
Why choose me
Why let me support you
Training & experience
Graduate of Universidad Pontificia de Comillas, with +XX years supporting people through grief, with a particularly careful approach that respects your timing and makes no empty promises.
A close approach, no labels
I treat you as a unique person, not a diagnosis. You talk directly with me, with no middlemen or endless waiting lists.
Format
In person in Toledo and online psychologist for grief
You can come to my practice in Toledo, a calm and confidential space, or have your sessions as an online psychologist for grief from wherever you are.
When the pain weighs heavily, leaving the house can sometimes feel like too much; that's why online therapy by video call can be a relief. It's just as warm and confidential. You choose the format.
See the practice & directionsFrequently asked questions
Common questions about grief
How long does grief last?
There is no set deadline. Every grief has its own timing and depends on the loss, the bond and each person. There is no "you should be over it by now". If the pain gets stuck or stops you living, that is when it helps to ask for support.
Will seeing a psychologist make me forget the person I have lost?
No. Grief therapy is not about forgetting or loving that person any less, but about helping you carry their memory in a way that doesn't stop you living. It is about finding a new place for the bond, not erasing it.
Is it normal to feel anger or guilt as well as sadness?
Yes, it is very normal. Grief is not only sadness: it lives alongside anger, guilt, anxiety, relief or emptiness, sometimes all at once. None of those emotions is "wrong"; they are part of the process and we work through them together.
When should I ask for professional help?
When the pain gives you no respite as the months pass, stops you functioning, isolates you or shows up through your body (sleep, appetite, anxiety). You don't have to wait until you feel very unwell: you can come whenever you need to.
Does grief therapy work online?
Yes. Support through grief works just as well online, and many people find it a relief to do it from home when leaving the house feels hard. Sessions are by video call, with the same warmth and confidentiality.
How much does a session cost?
You can check the current fees for the individual session and the first orientation session on the fees page (in Spanish).
Keep exploring
Resources that may help you
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Read the article →Where to find me
Psychologist in the centre of Toledo
In-person practice in the centre of Toledo and online therapy across Spain. Here is where to find me.
Take the first step
I'm here to support you
You don't have to carry it all on your own. When you feel ready, write to me and we'll look together, without rushing, at how to move through this moment.
Book your first session